As promised on this blog video featured on thecarolblog.com, here are some more thoughts about the Type 2 feelings and thoughts processes.
I wrote this back in January 2010 on the Dressing Your Truth Type 2 Facebook Group. There was a lot of discussion from the other Type 2's. I hope you find it helpful.
(To get a quick background on what I am talking about when I say "Type" - click here.)
"I have been wanting to write a message on here for awhile and of course, in my Type 2 nature I have been taking my time planning what to say. I'm still not sure exactly what I want to focus on, but the last week or so I have some experiences that have helped me learn even more about my Type 2 nature....
The first one I want to talk about is the Type 2s and assuming. Our gift is to be sensitive - sensitive to details, sensitive to feelings and situations. This can be a great gift as it can give us insight on how to approach someone or a situation before they have even expressed their feelings. I have also learned that it can become a weakness - it turns into assuming. Now I guess the assuming is only bad when your assumption is totally wrong. Often as Type 2s we feel picked on, the victim and innocent from any wrong doing, but taken advantage of, so the assumptions often support that belief, that someone is out to get us or pick on us. Now of course this can be from varying degrees. I have learned that when you act in a certain way based on the "accuracy" of the assumption damage can be done. It is important to ask and find out what is really going on. This me we need to speak up and let our voice be heard. Express your feelings openly and directly.
Another thing I realized about my Type 2 nature - I like to cry. Just as a Type 3 might get intense, loud and passionate when dealt with contentiously or a Type 4 more bold, my natural reaction as a Type 2 is to cry. I remember when I was little and my mom found me doing something I wasn't supposed to be doing and she would get mad/reactive and I would burst into tears. She would then feel sorry for me because now I was the one crying. I hated it. I would think - I need to be tough, if I cry she will think I am just too sensitive and trying to make her feel sorry for me. Now it happens with my husband. If I upset him - I'm the one who ends up in tears. I have often tried to hold back my tears as to not hurt anyone or make anyone feel bad for me. But I have learned that holding back the tears doesn't do any good - it just leaves a lump in my throat. I am now realizing that it is my natural reaction to shed a few tears and that is okay, no one has to feel bad about that, it is just the way things go in my world.
I think every Type can be hard on themselves from time to time. For Type 2s we often have a hard time forgiving ourselves for mistakes have made and then moving on. If I ever upset or hurt someone's feelings, or do something I perceive as inappropriate I will feel so bad and stew over it for hours or days - depending on the damage done. I just wish I could go back and do it over again - or not do it at all. Sometimes it is even embarrassing to think about it. When we do something inappropriate we get really embarrassed and want to fade away. We take a little more time to heal from situations like this. We don't just bounce right back. I have learned that it is okay to take my time, but at some point I need to move on and to forgive myself. I have realized that it takes courage to do that. My tendency is to want to continue thinking about it and cry some more and ask my husband over and over again - Are you okay, are you sure? I am sorry, I am sorry. I feel like I can't move on until I am 110% sure everything is okay. And it may be, but I can't let go (this can be very unhealthy and lead to always feeling not good enough). I have found a great deal of comfort through prayer and meditation. That is where I find courage to say okay, it is over, everyone is okay and time to forget it and move on. And I feel in my HEART that really, truly everything is okay. It is my HEAD that is saying - things are still bad... - but my HEART knows and we are HEART people.
As you can probably tell, I have definitely had some experiences that last little bit to learn about myself! Be not dismayed, Type 2s are very happy, peaceful people - not mean cry babies. But relationships are a part of life and there will be a few upsets and tears along the way. I am so grateful for every opportunity to grow and learn about the way I live and move through life.
I hope you find this helpful and can relate. I would love to hear your comments. Please share."
I love understanding my true nature! Just in the last 2 years (really since being married) I have settled into myself. I understand more clearly my gifts and talents. I am more confident about the woman I am and what I bring to the world. I am so grateful for the information I have been given to better understand my true nature.
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